I've been seeing a guy for around 3/4 weeks now. We text a lot and have gone out a fair few times.
Last night we went on a date. We walked on the beach and got some hot chips then just sat down on a concrete slab and talked. (Among other things.)
We've become really close and both feel really comfortable with each other. Like we just clicked when we started talking.
He's 7 years older than me, and much more experienced with girl's because of his age.
Anyway, the night was going great, and there was silence a few times, but a nice comfortable silence. Then this happened.
It was silent, we were just looking out to the water, and then he kissed me, smiled and said I love you. I was pleasantly surprised! I wasn't expecting for him to say it, and especially only after 3/4 weeks. It was the first time he had said it, but I can honestly say it felt right.
Earlier in the night he had told me he's becoming very fond and attached to me, and he's glad he met me etc. He's a real charmer.
It seemed genuine, but in your opinion do you think it's too early to be saying it? I'm just curious in what other people think?
(NOTE: Last week he had been drinking a bit, but hadn't gotten to the point of drunk, and he said I love you over text, the next morning he asked if I meant it when I said it back and I just explained how I felt about him, anyway he then said well I think that once we know each other more, like favourite foods, car, hobbies all that, then it's love. Something a long those lines. So I wasn't expecting him to say it, for a while yet, since there is still so much to learn about eachother! But he said it anyway. Was he genuine about it do you think?)
Thanks in advance for any replies :)
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I think, for me at least, it would probably be too soon too tell someone I love them after just under a month. However, I remember after I had been with my boyfriend for around the same length of time and it did seem to be on the tip of my tongue whenever I was kissing him goodbye. We're still together now, 8 months later, and I'm pretty damn sure I'm in love with him now.
I think that you sort of know whether or not you will fall in love with someone within the first 2-3 weeks, and whether that happens or not depends on circumstances such as timing, culture, religion, etc..
Him saying it so early merely means that he cares for you a lot, and is willing on putting in the work to make a relationship with you happen and be successful.0