I've been on 3 dates with this guy and the other night he invited me over for dinner. When I walked into his house, he yelled out "Hey, I'm over here, down the hall on the left". I turned the corner - he had the bathroom door open and was sitting on the toilet! I said sorry and went to walk away, but he said it was no big deal, that he has an "open house", meaning that people can "do and say as they please without feeling judged or embarrassed"(he has 2 small. kids, btw). I freaked out and made up an excuse to leave. He's been texting/calling me to talk about it but I'm so turned off. What do you think about that?
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I'd avoid him for a number of reasons.
1. The most important is the fact that he has 2 small kids of his own (from what I interpret from the story) and is inviting you over after only 3 dates. This means he's exposing his kids to potential partners and this is psychologically damaging to children's minds. If things don't work out and he keeps inviting women over these children are gonna be scarred for life.
2. He took no consideration to whether or not you were comfortable and imposed something way beyond your comfort zone without warning. To me it's the equivalent of him wanting to go on a date with you while he wears absolutely no clothes. It's only 3 dates. Even if he is "comfortable" others may not be.
I honestly think you should run like hell. He may be acting like you're "not open minded" but seriously, he's not in any right state of mind at all.2