[Rant] So what is it now a days with online dating and people being creeped out about someone asking them to meet in person... Isn't that the ultimate goal? I much rather meet soon and avoid all that back and forth emailing, and know that it wouldn't work out rather than building all the expectation and wasting time.
I can have interested girls, we exchange a few emails, pick up on topics from her profile and ask open ended questions, yada yada, all ok, then after a few exchanges I ask if they would like to meet (go grab a cup of coffee, or a drink), nothing creepy (or so I think) and never hear back from them. They just stop writing... (From over a hundred emails I have sent, I have gone out on only 3 dates in the last 3months).
Girls, how should a normal guy with average appearance, healthy, intelligent, good career, approach you and guarantee to close the deal? Or at least improve chances. The more specific you can be the better. Thanks
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I've been on and off online dating over the past couple years. Possible reasons they aren't getting back to you, may have nothing to do with the "creepy" factor.
1. The influx of messages girls get in their inbox. I restarted POF a week ago and have over 100 messages. That's not me bragging, that is me pointing out that other girls are possibly going through the same ordeal. And a lot of those messages are asking for sex.
2. As the other girls said, sometimes meeting up in person so soon is scary. Took me a couple of dates over the years to finally get used to the idea of meeting in person to be less terrifying. We all grew up with stories of girls meeting guys to eventually end up dead somewhere. Kinda scary!
3. She's meeting up with other potential dates on the site. May be annoying to swallow this, but with the heavy influx of messages, they may be agreeing to meet up with someone else and if girls are anything like me on the dating scene, I don't usually like to go on multiple dates with different guys so soon.
In terms of what may improve your chances… keep talking to them for a bit longer before asking them out. Make sure your pics aren't all selfies (makes me think you have no friends), smile in your pics (bunch of pics of a guy doing the same lack of expression does creep me out), show you with friends, or family, and NO bathroom/shirtless mirror pics (if you have a hot bod and want to show it off, have someone take a pic of you at the beach… looks less douchey).
That's al my advice!2