Long story short. He constantly looks up her facebook. Probably about twice a week or so.
We have been dating for almost two years and have six month old twin boys together.
We fight constantly and things get really rocky between us, but there are times where we are happy.
I try my hardest to get over it. But since our boys have gotten here, it's been so stressful. He's always out with his friends drinking and I'm just at home taking care of our kids, when I would like a break of my own every so often.
What really got me was that he searched her Facebook right next to me while I was feeding one of our boys.
He always talked so poorly of her, so why can't he stop this?
It's getting to the point where he misses her so much, that I think that he would rather of had kids with her instead. We fight and it makes me feel worse because he wishes he could be with her. It would be better that way. He would have less to deal with. He'd have a better looking girlfriend. One that would treat him better. One that he would love more.
On top of feeling like a terrible girlfriend, I feel like a terrible mom. I can't seem to get anything right anymore.
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Where do you think your relationship can go from here? Exist in a state of "getting along"?
I am sorry but his heart has begun to wander...
At this point his heart might be partially devoted to his children, but the verbal abuse is a symptom of a heart you no longer hold.
When men get sex before making a commitment to you for life (AKA Marriage, after a foundation has been established), our hearts and minds can wander. Unfortunately that's what's going on here.
You need to sit him down and talk to him like an adult. Tell him that he has two children, two beautiful twins that need him. Tell him that his heart is wandering... If his ex takes him back after he dumps you, after fathering two children with you, that says a lot about her.
This is a sad, sad situation. I am praying for you and I hope that God can prick his heart and wake him up so he can realize what he's doing.0