I ask because I find myself loosing girls after the first date, even when we had a great time, made out with almost all of them, I'm getting no replies when I go for a second date. I'm very direct with girls, always go for the kiss and I'm very good at sub communicating my intentions, so I must be doing something wrong but can't figure out exactly what it is. I'd like to know from a female perspective, why would you ignore a guy you went out with, showed you a good time, made you laugh, there was sexual chemistry and kissing, even sex in a few occasions, but then when he wants to see you again, you ignore him. This has happened 6 or 7 times to me in the last 2 months, and although my rational side knows that I should just shake it off and keep going, my emotional side is preventing me from doing so. Just honest opinions please. Thanks.
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It would either be one of two options.
1. Your direct approach put them off. They may have felt that it was too rude to turn you down when you made advances, so just went along with it. I personally do not like it when a guy tries to make out with me on a first date, as it gives me the impression that he is after something more physical. I love affection etc, but all in good timing. I am really impressed when a guy actually shows a little self control, and spends at least three dates getting to know me, and conversing, before leaning in for a kiss. I'm looking for a gentleman. And a simple kiss on the cheek, with his hand in the small of my back is hugely underrated, I love it when a guy starts off doing that. I feel that making out too soon cheapens the connection with another.
2. They are only looking for something physical. To put it bluntly... they're horny. Girls too, feel a need to make out sometimes, and just get it out of their systems. I'm embarrassed to say that I once went on a couple of dates with a certain guy who I had no interest in what so ever, just so we could make out at the end of each date. I would never do something like that now however, as felt a lot of guilt after that, knowing that he was quite hurt. And I am not usually one to disregard another's feelings.
Have you ever tried not making out with a girl at the end of a date, to see what happens? Maybe it's worth a try :)0