Its human nature, for one. But I'm not saying looks are the only thing but they are a part of the thing. If I think a guy is nice and funny and smart, and I feel a connection to him, I will end up finding him attractive at one point, most likely.
Example: met a guy once and he wasn't attractive to me but I felt a connection and then found him cute. When the connection died I stopped finding him cute.
However there's some people who I just don't find attractive at all, in any way, and while they're cool I can't just make myself feel it... I hate using the word "ugly" but that's what I'm talking about. How am I supposed to date someone I feel uneasy kissing?
Same extends for very overweight guys. If I'm not feeling any attraction even if they're cool, why should I fake it? How is that shallow?
Example: a guy who is unattractive flirted with me when I was out with my mom. Later she told me she knows he's unattractive but he's sweet so I shouldn't be so shallow and I should have gone for it.
That doesn't make sense to me.
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I agree, I don't get it! Like what are you supposed to do, date someone that you aren't at all physically attracted to, just because they have a good personality? All that is, is faking feelings and that seems wrong. You don't control who you're attracted to. Oh yeah, but if you don't date him you'll be insulted and criticized for "friend-zoning" him. It's annoying.2