Okay so yeah I'm overweight! So what! And I'm not the best looking. So what. I'm really nice. Everyone says I'm so kind. So why won't guys date me? They date stuck up bitches instead. Maybe I should be a stuck up bitch because I'm getting tired of being nice and still not getting dates! So what's the point! Ugh
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The way I see it, you've got two options, Love:
1. Lose weight. I wouldn't recommend losing weight just to attract men though, do it for yourself! I use to be overweight up until my sophomore year of high school but it felt soooo much better to get that extra weight off. I had more energy, I had more options when I went shopping (yaaas), I didn't get winded when I went to the third floor for class, and I made Varsity Tennis!
2. Stay the same and be patient. There are plenty of men out there who actually have a preference for large women so it's really a matter of being patient AND confident. Trust me, a little confidence goes a looooong way. Remember how I said I was fat for like half of high school? Well when I was still fat I managed to land one of the hottest guy's in the grade, or at least I thought he was. He took all AP classes, was on Varsity Crew, an amazing musician (we met through choir), and had a really cute/preppy sense of style. A total catch. It wasn't like he couldn't have dated skinnier or more attractive girls, but I think he really admired how confident in myself that I was, not to mention I have other redeeming qualities.
So don't sell yourself short. It CAN happen. Be confident, take care of yourself in other ways such as dressing nicely and wearing makeup, and put yourself out there.1