It's a big one here.. Who gets the check? Traditionally men get the check, but things are changing. What do you think? Is is a turn off if the woman picks up the check? Or a turn on?
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It's a legal/financial obligation to the place that served two people with food that's being satisfied with the transfer of paper that society says holds value, or plastic that will transmit information of debiting one's assets or crediting one's liabilities in satisfaction of that expense obligation. Why would that be either a turn on or a turn off?
What's going on here? Two people go to Place X. They both order food. Place X provides Man and Woman with food. So far, Man and Woman have been separately enriched by Place X. To put some numbers down, let's say Man has been enriched by $30 worth of food, and Woman has been enriched by $30 worth of food. If they just get up and leave, they basically just "stole" $30 each from Place X. If they don't pay, Place X could sue them both, separately, for $30 each.
So, the "check" or "bill" comes, and that's really Place X's way of asking both of them, "Hey guys, we provided you both with $30 worth of food each, so now, you owe us $60 in total. It's customary that people who appear to be on a date, from our point-of-view as a provider of food, usually pay the bill as a whole. If you would like, we could go back and create two separate bills, or you guys can figure it out between the two of you and pay together. Either way, "we" don't care, we just want our $60."
So, this is the point where (usually, although times are now changing) the Woman looks at the Man and starts to try to formulate some socially acceptable excuse or reason or justification for why he.. the Man.. should make her a "gift" of $30 right there and then, by assuming her $30 obligation to Place X.
The classic justification is as follow: "You are the Man, and the Man 'should' be the one to as the Woman out on a date. Furthermore, the person who asks the other out on a date should be the one to pay for the date. Therefore, the Man 'should' pay. I promise, it's only by coincidence that the person advocating for this rule is benefiting."0