Some people say personality is the most important. I think looks is as important as personality. You don't really wanna wake up next to someone you don't find attractive. Even if it's just one thing you like about them, I think looks are important. What do you think?
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Well, only because I've had to construct a case rating scale for new intakes, I would think of this problem as follows:
1. If a girl was completely ugly, like "horrid" ugly, what other qualities would she need to have so that I would even consider being with her? Worth $5 trillion dollars and nicer than Mother Theresa? Nope, sorry, still couldn't do it. God bless women, I don't know how they could be with an ugly man, but my prostitute instincts haven't have 20,000 years of a leg-up in experience to compete. So, I'm gonna have to sit that one out.
2. Fine, what if the girl was just "average" in terms of looks. No "disutility," but not "utility" either. Okay, well, I would say that she's motivated me about 10 to 20% to pull the trigger and consider being in a long-term relationship with her.
3. Fine, then what's the other 80-90%? Her current net income, net income growth, net assets, family status, her status, her career/profession, her character, her personality, her emotional stability, her emotional intelligence, her ability to be self-aware, her ability to communicate, understand how others besides her feel, actually give a sh*t about how others feel, be fair and meaningfully compromise, how she resolves conflict in a relationship, how she bargains and negotiates, how much she cares about the happiness of others and what's important to them, her values and attitude towards raising children (i. e., parenting style/goal/strategy), and her goals in life and view of the world.
4. Fine, what's a rough break-up of the interpersonal versus financial traits? I would say, 40% weight allocated to financial, the other 40% weight allocated to interpersonal (i. e., if she lacks seriously in either, she's at just 60% if she's perfect in the other aspects, but, 60% isn't exactly great).
5. Fine, but where does sex fall into all of this? Under "interpersonal" obviously.
Hope that helps.1