I really feel like there is. I don't talk to a lot of guys but I seem to attracted guys who aren't ready to date yet and possibly become exclusive. I'm not talking about the players or immature types. I'm talking about the ones who couldn't get in the "mind set" to date me.
Its really upsetting because they lead me on , thinking they are , then they just stop talking to me, cold turkey. I don't find out even I confront them. Its crazy because every last one of these guys, I had a date with and they end up cancelling on me. I seriously don't date much, so I basically get my hopes up for nothing.
They always tell me its not me, but I think they are wrong. Its happened to many times. I get along with just about everyone. I'm not clingly. Just about everyone tells me how sweet I am , but I'm not a push over. I just don't know what I'm doing wrong.
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I'll make some suggestions, but I only know that you are not attracting guys you want. First, your superficial appearance reflects a bit the person you are, so make sure your style reflects yourself properly. Wear just a bit of red, orange, or pink.
Make eye contact and smile appropriately. Improve your conversational skills. Make a list of what you think are appropriate conversational topics to keep the talk going, mostly about him. Never say "no" words, never complain or criticize. Don't ask direct questions, but you can make leading statements to draw a guy into conversation. Don't get serious, keep the conversation light. Avoid politics or religion. Nod yes or no appropriately as the person speaks. Smile again and make appropriate eye contact. Never tell a guy you are looking for a steady boyfriend. Never mention religion or politics. Never discuss your sexual experience or inexperience. Don't be a prude or make priggish comments.
Get physical. Rub shoulders, hold hands, pat backs, let your leg or foot rest against his if you sit together. Don't make a formal date right away. You yourself offer to buy a Starbucks on the spot. Tell him, don't ask, by saying something like, "Let's get a coffee," or Come with me to Starbucks."
If you need to lose weight, start working on it; the same with your wardrobe and personal appearance. Now you look good, smell good, sound good, and transmit happy thoughts with your facial expression and behavior. Go where the guys go, you can take a girlfriend.
At this stage you merely wait for Nature to do its magic. Guys will be swarming around you.0