I'm sure everyone is different, but I think it's weird for exes to be "buddy buddy" and talk all the time, or at least a good amount.
I find that to be a red flag if I'm seeing a guy. If he has exes in his life that he still talks to a lot I just think that's weird!
Why do guys keep their exes around? Am I weird for thinking the way I do?
I just don't get what the need would be to keep in touch with an ex if you're done with the relationship.
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I am really good friends with all my exes. At least, all the ones that were long term relationships. I'm not going to be in a relationship with somebody for 2+ years if I think that person is an asshole. Sure, some people do, but I don't. I am with a person that long because I really like them as a person. And I only date someone that long if I think there could be a potential for a permanent, long-term thing. So, if eventually we come to the conclusion that no, we aren't quite compatible enough for 50 years of marriage, it doesn't suddenly negate the fact that we are awesome friends and have enjoyed each others company for years. And I am not going to stop talking to somebody that is a great friend that I've known for years because it makes a stranger that I have known for weeks uncomfortable.
Now, for people who stick around in relationships with people that are assholes, I don't know. That would be a different situation, I suppose. Or people that stay in touch with their exes because they still want to get back together with them. Lumping everyone into one category is too dangerous.
If I was dating a girl that I didn't know very well and she said I couldn't be friends with my friends because I used to date them, that would be the end of the relationship with that girl. I don't have any interest in putting up with someone with serious insecurities. If they don't trust me when I say I am just friends, there isn't much I can do about that. And I am not into relationships without trust.
I understand someone being concerned if they've been burned in the past, but I can definitely attest to the fact that there are at least some guys who keep in touch with their exes because they are good friends with their exes.0