I am in college right now. My parents don't allow me to date anyone (i will be considered bad if I did) and they are really suspicious when I talk to guys even if they are just friends. Now, it's just that you can't control who you fall in love with, right? I am totally head over heels for a guy. But I just have to keep my distance from him, and I said to him that I don't like him at all. It seriously hurts. I don't wanna date behind my parents' back and be guilty. Leaving house is not an option. I want to give better life to my parents, but apparently they think that dating is sinful.
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Honestly I don't think you should feel guilty for having desires of your own. Most people meet their loved ones through at the age of where you are at right now. Do you really feel like their command should be take this away from you? I'm not saying you have to date right now, just friendships in general are a great foundation for college. But I don't feel like it's up to my parent to tell me wether or not I should fall in love now or later. I'm just 19 and approx. 75% of my friends are in a relationship right now.. This may be just this moment but the chances of me finding love within my social group are shrinking by the year knowing that the vast majority already found/had known their loved one at the age of 17 (read that somewhere).
I think you shouldn't have to live life with handicaps through cultural believes or heck even your parent. Do mind they intend what is best for you but as long as you keep up healthy grades you should be granted the freedom of choice, if that is love then it be love. Of course you can have them voice their opinion over several issues for example a bad boyfriend or whatever but their voice shouldn't withold you from live, just rather influence it slightly.0