I had sex on a first date with a guy I only knew for less than a week. We had a good date and good time though. But I feel terribly scared now that he might just think of me as a hook up. I really like him and wish we could make it more than just a hook up.
What do guys think? Do you really lose interests in girls if they give you all on the first date? And what should be my next move to make it cool?
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That's a hard one to approach not really knowing you, the guy or your relationship prior to the first date. So all below with a grain of salt..
It depends on the guy if he considers you 'easy' after getting some on the first date. This will probably be less likely if you guys have known each other a while and spent a lot of time talking and hanging out before this first date.
My girlfriend and I slept together on our first date. However before this date, we would spend hours after work sitting in her truck and just talking. Which then turned to talking and cuddling. We also would go to stores and such, just hanging out, but not really 'dating'. The day we had an official 'date' we ended up sleeping together, but by then we had already grown a relationship. So I knew it wasn't a matter of her being easy, it was a matter of the foundations already being there for it to happen.
There is a higher likelihood of a man thinking, "If it was this easy for me to nail her... how many others?" when getting some on the first date, especially if he has barely spent any time previous with you.
This doesn't mean that is how he thinks. I've had other women have sex with me on a first date. I took it as there being a good attraction and a desire on both sides to release some sexual tension. I did not however view it as a 'special' sexual encounter, it was just sex. Emotionally on par with a one night stand, just with someone I'm continuing to see.
The best way I can think to 'make it cool' is to just continue how you have. Talk, go out, date, be with each other. Play it by ear. Do your part to make it apparent you are here for something serious, but don't outright hit him with the 'are we serious' talk/question. That might scare him off.
Just keep an eye out and make sure he doesn't seem to be leaning towards simply using you sexually.2