I'm a Latino/Mexican-American male who's currently in college and I've met this beautiful and intelligent Asian girl who was originally from Vietnam and moved here in the US when she was 7 years old. Her and I go to the same English 101 class in college. There something about her that I like and find interesting. I like her aspect and perspective of life and I can relate to her in a few ways.
The only thing that's holding me back from starting an actual relationship with her is what if her parents are one of those "typical" Asian parents who are very prideful and anti-interracial dating and marriage and wants their children to focus on their education. Now, as much as I hate racial stereotyping, some do have a degree of truths behind them. I don't know. What do you guys think? I mean I know her parents legally don't have the right to tell her who she should and shouldn't be dating or whether or not she should be dating since she's of legal age but I also don't wan't to end up having her hurt by her own family.
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As a Chinese American girl who moved here 2 years ago, I can understand what problems she is having with her parents. Asian parents tend to be really strict, and they brainwash their kids also. Sorry, but lots of Asian parents seem not to like Latinos much because of their stereotypical appearance. Like how they dress and how most of them doesn't treat homework seriously, which is the exact opposite of Asian parent's principles and values. It's not being racist, it's just how Asian cultures are like. But from the way you describe her, you seem to be different, not like the stereotypical Latinos.
I have a crush on a white boy. the only reason that my mom (dad went nuts) didn't freak was because he gets straight A's and is in the School Band. We text only to talk about homework and goals in life and the colleges we want to go. His perspective in life is a lot like me and my family's, and that's also a really good advantage. The only reason we aren't dating is because we both put schoolwork as priority, so as high school students we shouldn't date.
I feel like you are just like my crush, who I had just described. You seem to be a really nice and intelligent person, so according to my analyzing, this is what I think:
Since your only problem is her parents, then get to know them. Become study partners with the beautiful Vietnamese girl, call her just to ask about her goals in life and homework. Slowly let her know that you are not like any others. Take your school work seriously, and if you guys take tests (I don't know anything about college) always try to get good grades either better than her or near her. Make her admire you. Eventually she will think about introducing you to her parents. But it's gonna be hard, because you're a guy AND you're not Asian. Her parents might not like you from the start, or they will look really nice on the outside and secretly tell their daughter to stop hanging out with you. But do that same thing, and they will like you eventually0