I've been talking to this guy for 4 months now but things are kind of on hold because he says that he needs to figure some things out before he can have something with someone else. Things were fine for the first 3 months, month 4 was when he had this realization (no its not another female) and that it really has nothing to do with me. I asked him if he just wanted me to leave him alone while he does this and he said that's a hard question and that he really doesn't know. He said "Honestly, I am still in the middle of figuring me out but I really do like "this". I enjoy talking to you, spending time with you, laughing with you, etc... So I really can't say". That left me feeling confused. I don't know how long this will take and I'm sure he doesn't know either. So how long should I wait? Things are great between us when we speak and hang out.. its just this "space" thing that's getting to me. I'm trying to have a "If I hear from him, I hear from him" attitude but its hard. I really do like him but I don't want to wait for nothing. There is no guarantee that when this is over (however long that takes) he'll want me.
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These kind of 'situationships' end in nothing but heart break, I have been there before and trust me it is better to get out now rather then be faced being in this longer and him tell you he doesn't want commitment. He seems like the type of guy that is happy with whats going on with no strings attached, he likes that he has his own freedom but also has you there dangling. Not saying that he doesn't genuinely enjoy your company but he has no plans for your future together, don't be his call girl when everything is convenient to him. Go out and do things for you, love yourself before anyone else can love you because right now your putting his needs before your own and your holding onto the idea of what might be. You're not showing yourself any self respect or self love by waiting to hear from him, constantly worrying what might happen with him and putting yourself through unnecessary stress and heart break. Cut this guy loose and it will be easier to move on from him if you cut contact.1