I like my friend. We hang out regularly. We also work together.
Our friendship began when I asked her out three months ago. At the end of the night, she refereed to it as a, "hang out". I guess she didn't think of it as a date. I would later find out she had recently, as of that first hang out, gotten out of a relationship and so didn't want one.
I wanted to give her her space and time. Be her friend and earn her trust, and hopefully, she would notice me as more than just a friend.
However, a sizable portion of my hope was dashed when she told me that she had, "... a small crush," on one of our co-workers.
I told my brother about this and he said that it would be best to not get my hopes up. Seeing his point, I figured it was okay for me to have interest in other girls.
There are a lot of cute girls that come into my work. Mostly college students. There is this one Asian girl that comes in occasionally. It's honest to say that I have a small crush on her.
I told my brother about this Asian girl. I also told him that if my friend can tell me about small crushes she has, then I suppose I can tell her about mine. He said: "Don't tell her stuff like that 'cause it's kind of a dick move."
I am perplexed by this. Is he right? Would I self-negate all chances with my friend if I told her such things? I mean, my friend is my top priority because she stands out to me in a special way, but I don't want to be led on or ruin our friendship by me expressing my feelings for her.
I just don't know what to do, really.
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It does sound like you want to tell her because she has confessed to having a small crush on someone else. I think if I were in your shoes i would hold back I have a feeling she might have told you this because she might have wanted a reaction out of you. I'm not saying she doesn't kind of like the other guy, just that she wanted to see what you would say or do when she told you about her crush. Play it cool though there is no reason to tell her about your crush because it sounds like you like if you had your way you would already be dating this girl. Don't ruin it with telling her about your crush, then she might really think you aren't interested and go on like friendship is all you ever hope to accomplish.0
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