Met this amazing girl, spent months talking and texting, she was literally just the most lovy dovy person in text and the phone with me. We went on a date on Friday September 5, went to her place, and got intimate and made out and stuff. Cuddled and everything, she is digging me. After that she becomes distant, didn't hear from her since September 5th, so I text her Monday if everything is fine, she said everything is cool, but is busy with studies until Thursday, okay, cool, I leave her be, she texts me Thursday, we didn't talk much, just random BS. I sorta ask when I can see her she said she's busy for a few weekends and she'll see me soon, okay cool, I don't text her or talk to her since that Thursday, so this Tuesday she texts me again, commenting about my FB. We once again barely talk, I ask if I can call her she said she's busy, and said call tomorrow, so next morning I text her okay, I'll call you tonight at this time, no response so I didn't call.
So now what? Do I still call today? Do I still give her more space? What's going on? Why all of a sudden before the date we used to text everyday, she was literally drooling over me, and after the date and we cuddled, made out and got sexual, that she's being distant?
I really like her, what is going on, I want answers. What do I do/say without coming off clingy or a douche? I think I've been patient enough, I haven't been blowing up her phone or anything.
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Don't automatically assume the worst, just don't. From what you have said, My suggestion is to send her a sweet text telling her you're there for her. Maybe she really is busy! And you texting her the way you have been is probably adding to her stress. I suggest you just make it clear that you are always there to listen and help her if she needs it. Plan a Date (if possible) and do something super sweet for her. Remember that automatically assuming the negative thoughts can put you in a bad spot. There could be any number of reasons why she just hasn't been as talkative lately!0