Hi... This is kind of a personal question on my end, but the thought is really scaring me right now, so please bear with me. I have a series of serious medical issues that deplete my chance of survival past the age of 22, and I also have frequent hospital visits/check ups/follow ups/pre-ops, etc.. Operations, too. Well, I have a boyfriend, who lives not too far from me, and I love him with all my heart. He comes first before a lot of things, and I'm just scared to tell him about all of this, because I think he'll leave me -- we don't really have a chance to talk to each other that much, either.
I don't really tell him much about my medical issues, because I'm scared to. I'm scared that he won't care about me anymore, if he figures out I'm not going to be living very long, if everything goes as suspected.
I'm sorry. I know this site is more for funnier, less-intense topics, but I just want to know this stuff. I want to know if I should tell him, or if I should just let him figure it out, or whatever. I'm scared, okay?
- I would date someone like this, but I'd always have my eye on someone else, if they do die.Vote A
- I wouldn't date someone like this.Vote B
- I would date someone like this, and stay loyal.Vote C
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I only had about 7/8 months with my gf before she passed away. Life was very dark after that, it took about a year to fully come back for me. She was definitely my proverbial "one" and a very tough act to follow. I think it's more of the deep sense of chemistry, the level of comfort in communication as well as the strength of trust between each of you. How long have you guys been going out? I think you should tell him, be honest and if he's worth any damn he wouldn't let you face it alone. I sure as hell didn't let her go alone, I went to chemo, doctor's appointments, she'd have intense migraines to where she didn't want to go anywhere or do anything. I'd pick up the med from the pharmacy, she didn't have much of a medicare plan so I'd pay for some of those. Her medicare and insurance covered the chemo. It sucked, so bad I hated life every minute thinking how can she be so happy and peaceful when all I want is to bash God's face in. Don't worry about the negative posts on here, many are actually here to help, lames will always be lames. Tell him and just be honest and see what he does. If you feel like PM me, to talk I'd be more than happy to help.1