I have many female friends and people I have heard about or know date these typically black or mexicans with lots of tattoos, unemployed, been to jail and have nothing to offer men that are typically drug users or alcoholics. These women get hurt and cry to me over and over when their boyfriend has sex with them and then leaves. Im always the one who is the shoulder to cry on and here for them if they need to talk... i know this because my 21 year old sister got pregnant from one of these losers and hasn't paid any child support for my three year old niece and its a real shame that this generation is making such poor choices. Is it just me or is society getting dumber and more ignorant? Do these men seem confident and sexy to women? I dont get it
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From a psychological basis, these men come across as strong and aggressive. From a women's perspective, They fulfil an innate biological need. (protect the nest so to spoke). It is the same way how man will choose women with large hips and big breasts, as it fulfils a innate biological need- reproduce. It sounds silly, but according to some theorists we are all driven by theses biological desires.
My boyfriend had this problem before he met me. He kept having his female friends coming to him, to cry on his shoulder, after these 'bad boys' used them. I was a psych student and taught him a few things. Girls will continue to see you as a doormat, as long as you continue to let them used you as a shoulder to cry on when things go bad. ( this doesn't apply to females who you are friends with on a regular basis, and who help you). It is really simple, tell them that you are a man, and would rather stick your balls in a vice, than have to listen to her go on about some other bloke. Tell them to go and see/ call her other friends, sister or mother. I know that it sounds mean, but you will find it easier to find a girlfriend when you are a little more assertive.2