So, here's the story,
I have anxiety attacks about my mother in law quite often. I've gone through quite a bit since I was very young. But over the last while I'm starting the realize that my current anxiety and stress are about her and her family. I feel like she's constantly trying to control each decision my fiancé and I make. I feel like if we don't break away from her my kids may also experience the same problems. I want the anxiety to stop. I want to be me again. I know she will never be completely out of our lives. And I wouldn't ask that of him. That's his mother and it wouldn't be right. But I would love some distance and less visits. But for the time being, anyone else who is experiencing this... what are you doing to cope with it? How do you keep your cool around her without feeling like you're going to explode at any moment. Every time I'm around her I feel like I'm going to break and lose control. And I really don't want to do that. It would be terrible for everyone involved. Please someone give some advice!
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You need to get your fiance involved. It is his mother and he needs to handle this. He needs to tell her what the boundaries are and that you are his future wife and your decisions take priority. She was in a relationship, she was married, she had a family. This is yours now, not hers.0