Honestly idc what people think it's only age. But for this situation i kinda do care. Im 19. He's 29. We met at work and yo. I thought he was about 32. But he looks mad young android has accomplished so much in his life. He isn't rich. He doesn't live in a big house or come from a rich family he's actually the exact opposite. Overall. We bonded really well at work. and he asked me for my # after our shift. Overall. I don't know age doesn't matter but yo... He's holder than my mom and like...4 years younger than me dad. That kinds freaks me out when i think about it that way like... how would i tell my parents LOL
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"it's only age." Well, no. It's also a large power imbalance. The older partner (usually) has more experience, a more stable income, more established household, more communication practice, etc. And has probably had more relationships. In practicality, it means that an older partner can really f*** over a younger partner, because they can steer the relationship in a way that THEY want, don't have to pay as much attention to the younger partner, because they can give just enough to get what they want... And if things go downhill, they'll be able to pull out w/o too much trouble, whereas a younger partner might suddenly find her (or him) self homeless with most of her (his) friend network gone. That threat alone can have a big effect on the relationship. That *WORRY* alone can have a big threat on the relationship.
Now, I'm not saying "don't do it." My gf is 10 years younger than me (but she's mid-20s, so she's a bit older than you and has a bit more practice living on her own). An older partner can offer some great things - stability, more practice communicating, etc. But. It's really important to be very very careful and take things slowly and make sure that you keep your own support network! A support network independent of him.
Another good idea is to run him by all your friends (esp the ones whose judgement you trust) and your family (if you trust their judgement). And then *listen* (which is hard).
Didn't want to scare you too much, but didn't want you to go thinking "it's just age," because there's a lot more. Good luck!0