I see a lot of people trying to ask a lot of girls out and go through tons of rejection. I myself have never been flirted with, never gone on a date, and have gotten rejected 3/3 times since late August. Honestly, I am really anxious to meet someone but it's just so mentally and emotionally exhausting to constantly be thinking about how bad I want to experience romance.
I was reading some posts on another board the other day, and one of the guys suggested that instead of chasing women to just be your best version of yourself. Instead of looking around the classes to decide which girls to hit on, just focus on being happy, structuring your life so you're happy by yourself, do well in school. If you're older, focus on getting a good job. Hit the gym a lot, be sociable, talk to everyone, laugh, make jokes, have a positive attitude and just STOP ACTIVELY LOOKING FOR LOVE. Work on making it so you consistently think highly of yourself and are proud of yourself because high self-esteem correlates to increased perceived attractiveness. But only do these things for your happiness and well-being, not just to get girls. This shouldn't be a race or a competition. This is being yourself, but being the best version of yourself.
Only ask out girls that show interest and only show interest in girls that you naturally become interested in rather than as a result of hunting for a girlfriend (in other words, only show interest in girls that you naturally develop crushes on). This should also minimize unnecessary rejection/getting led on and it conforms to the saying, "Love comes when you least expect it."
Okay, these seems fine and dandy. But I am afraid I'll still feel anxious and have that intense desire for a romantic relationship and doing this will keep me single for an indefinite amount of time (from 2 weeks to 15 years). So I don't know if I can do this, or if I should.
What do you think? Do you think this applies for women too?
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I have felt just like this. I finally realized, everything happens for a reason. I know it is definitely not easy to admit to someone you like them. You should however not be scared to do so. Girls like when a guy is a gentlemen to her. The one asking her out on a date, him being the one to say I like you. You should be the best version of yourself, but really don't go for the first girl who throws herself at you. You deserve the best too.0