She works soo hard, and has a ton of debt. She never has any money so a vast majority of the time I have to pay.
She's soo sweet and is truly a good person and this makes this soo hard.
Basically, she's boring. She is soo quiet, has never told a joke and just clings onto me. Whenever I bring her around my friends, she just sits there looks bored and plays around on her phone.
I ask her what she wants to do and she's always like idk, I don't care, you choose. I feel like I'm entertaining a guest! It's so frustrating...
We've been going out for 3 months and all this is seriously driving me up a wall... I'm not sure if this is gonna work out.
BUT she's soo sweet I mean soo kind and nice.
What should I do!
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Not sure why you decided to get into a relationship with somebody who you clearly aren't very compatible with, but either way nobody is truly "boring", maybe she's just got very thick walls, eventually when you get through em I'm sure she'll be a fun person. She just might not feel comfortable opening up to you, if you can get her to feel comfortable and be herself I'm sure you'll see her real personality shine through.
Most times a person is quiet and doesn't joke around it's cause they're scared or insecure if they talk too much and people figure out who they really are or they make jokes and people think it's stupid they'll stop liking them or judge them, so often times it's more trying to play it safe/not having the confidence to be themselves rather than them being boring.
Compliments on her personality, sense of humour or just about anything about her that's not appearance based (although you can throw those in too) should help her feel like she has less to worry about when speaking to you. And maybe you can take her out on a nice date, come home then cuddle and watch a movie and lie on your bed with the lights dim or off and just talk. About anything & everything, things like that can usually get a girl to open up and talk about just about anything. If she's the quiet one then the responsibility is really gunna be on you to try and get the conversation going in a direction she likes, you can even play 21 questions, seems like a kids game but you can learn a lot of interesting things about a person if you know the right questions to ask vice versa (And not just sexual questions like a high school kid, you're trying to undress her mind not her body). And at the end of the day if all that fails, well, it just wasn't meant to be.
Don't try to turn water into wine. Just let it be and do yourselves both a favour and let yourselves be single so you can get into a relationship with somebody you're compatible with.1