I haven't gone on a single date in my life, BUT:
I have read thousands, maybe even tens of thousands of similar stories [of girls leading guys on] over the past few years (since my first crush), throughout all age ranges, from early teens to middle ages like here. Actually, a more common variation is when girls use guys for attention and play hot and cold games and then drop him or not even bother with the latter and just get him to fall ridiculously hard and then BAM! I think that's supposed to be the girl's version of "pump and dump". I am talking about some version of a girl leading a guy on and then dropping him after a few weeks, or even girls who show interest and then the second you ask them out, they turn cold. I have read tens of thousands of those kind of stories over the past 3.5 years. I haven't even had a girl show interest for heaven's sake.
What is alarming is that the girl's who do these kind of things - I am their primary target. I am insecure, desperate, inexperienced, and emotionally weak. Easy. That's why Sure, everyone runs this risk, but I am at a much larger one than normal, AND it will hurt that much more because remember, finding a girl who's interested will at least feel much more rare than for the average man because of my race and height.
I don't know if I will be able to trust a girl anymore. Not to mention, all the stories I have read of girls randomly leaving their boyfriends after 3 to 5 years for someone else even after a near-perfect relationship.
I don't know man... I have always wanted a romantic relationship, but because my social skills and emotional strength is subpar, and I am not physically attractive, and how much girls hurt guys... maybe I should just decide to be alone and avoid heartbreak... then again, I DO want to experience romance, so...
Ugh... I don't know...
Honestly, getting a girlfriend, is feeling like it's going to be this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TUXMQx4Wi4I
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No one can lead you on without your permission. So you need to approach women this way:
1) Never be friends with a woman you're attracted to.
2) Never give more than you're getting from a woman in a relationship.
3) Understand that women have an innate desire to be with a man who can provide strength and security. They don't dump guys maliciously for better choices. It's in their genes. So your goal should be to never be the guy who slows down. Always be better than her.
4) Never put a woman on a pedestal. she's a person, not a statue.
5) Always have a backup plan.0
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