my friend set me up on a date with a cop for tonight. I need help. what should I wear? what kind of questions should I ask him. I'm shy so its hard for me to speak with guys. any suggestions on how to act and what to say or don't say...
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It's normal to talk about work with a date, but I agree that you should perhaps avoid making it the only conversation topic. Ask about his hobbies, his family, the last book he read, where he went to college,
If you don't know what to say to guys, here's a magic tip: ask about their opinions, experiences and feelings (yes, men have them, too!), and _closely listen_ to what he says rather than simply waiting for a pause to start talking. Too many women confuse "communication" with "conversation," assuming that if someone is talking they must also be communicating. Not true. Listen to what he says, and prove you're listening by asking open-ended follow-up questions about things he's already mentioned. Such as, "You mentioned that you liked Movie X, do you like anything else that featured those actors?"
When I meet a rare girl who doesn't dominate the conversation, and actually seems to give a damn about what I say, I'm very impressed.0