Long story short, I was telling one of my close friends about this black guy who works at the grocery store that I have a crush on. She told me she wouldn't ever date a black guy and when I asked her why, she told me it was just her personal preference. Is this racist? If so, how can I explain it to her that it's racist when she thinks it's not? If you think it isn't racist, why?
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It depends on her reasons for it, I think. Also, it depends on how strong she is in her conviction (anytime I hear a person say "I would NEVER date a (n) XXXXXXXX person", it kinda makes you wonder).
If she simply has never found herself attracted to black people, then I can't imagine why there'd be anything wrong with that. If she completely eradicated them from her dating pool entirely based on their skin color, then that's a completely different animal, and I'm not sure how you get around characterizing that as racist.
At the end of the day though, she should date the people she wants to date with regardless of the nature of her motives.3