I posted a question. And I found myself being called a slut with no class. I'm like maybe I should contextualize more... cause I really don't see how what I did was so terrible.
I had a crush on this acquaintance for like months. It's an acquaintance, I didn't know much about him. Went out with some girlfriends, drank a little to much. And finally mustered up the courage to tell him I'm interested in him. He told me:"if I had known earlier. I would've been down. You're a really cool, interesting person. But I got a girlfriend now". He said we should hang out and mentioned a couple times how it was really too bad I hadn't said anything earlier.
This was one of my first confessions ever. I'm a pretty shy person. And I was drunk. To play it off cooly, I said "oh too bad. I am still DTF". But I said it as a joke. And likewise he said "good to remember".
I wanted to be positive about the whole exchange so I said: I think I got my foot in the door. Like come on, it hurts to think that you just got completely shut down by someone you had a crush on for so long. It felt good to think at least he was interested at some point. And if he still wants us to hang out. That's a good thing, right?
Was I so wrong in thinking like this? Did I really make myself out to look like a slut?
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Yeah, you screwed this up. Royally. But I don't consider you a slut for the way you handled it. There's absolutely no shame in telling someone how you feel about them. And after you did, it seems like he was very flattering to you in telling you what he did. But --- and this is the most important part --- everything was changed because now he was in a relationship with another girl. You have to respect that. And you have to respect this other girl you may not even know. Why do I say that? Because if the situation were reversed, and you and this guy were together in a relationship, and this other girl told him how she felt and that she was still down to fuck him even though he told her he was attached (to you!), how would you feel? You blew this one. But it would show a lot of class on your part if you wrote this guy a note letting him know that that isn't really who you are as a person, and you're sorry for the way you acted. (Not sorry about telling him how you felt about him, btw. Not that part at all.)0