a new year is coming up I refuse to go through this ever again you see I'm not usually the person who makes the first move in anything but I find that with everyone I know I HAVE to ask them to hang out with me or else I just don't hang out, this summer I gave up and I didn't do anything I just got a few texts and calls nothing more I cried all summer because I was alone and my mom is worried about me she thinks I have anxiety but I know I don't.. I could hang out if I wanted if I wasn't so nervous people would turn me down or say they had other plans I want to be more outgoing I want people to just enjoy my company .. any tips?
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Even I used to feel the same way when my friends were not calling me during our vacations & hence would feel the same way as you do. Ultimately I got rid of it by calling them on my own. But then, you will have this feeling as to "why is no one calling me on their own ?". Trust me, it is a trivial thing. You need not worry about such minor things. Just be natural, just be normal. If you feel like calling them & take the initiative, then just do it !
What is more important is your mixing with friends rather than staying alone & getting anxious and nervous. Remember, if you stay without friends, then the odds are that you will continue to feel distressed this way. Why not continue with your approach which you followed ? There isn't anything wrong with that !
One more thing, is anyone bothering you in making you realize that "It is you who have to call us ! Ha Ha" or anything like that ? OR Is anyone teasing you like this ?