I've always had this perfect vision of my dream girl.
-She would be in shape and would love going to the gym with me.
-She would be college educated, like me.
-She would also have no kids... because she wants to wait to start her family with the right guy.
Since I suck at talking to women and dating in general... I tried online dating, more specifically, Tinder.
I met and started talking to this girl for 2 months. We eventually started talking on SnapChat. Things were going well, we have great conversation, we could make each other laugh and the sexual feelings were there and we admitted that. Unfortunately, I learned, she had a kid from a previous marriage (she just turned 25), she is slightly on the big side (but very cute face), and she dropped out of college.
She kept asking to meet me and if we could exchange numbers and talk... but I kept hesitating. I really liked her... but I had to figure things out before I proceeded to the next step.
Just recently, when I figured I could put my vision the of the perfect girl behind me, I got on snapchat to ask for her number and talk to her. She didn't reply for 40 minutes. When she finally did, she just showed me a snap of her smiling with another guy. A few days before that... she was talking to me a lot less, too.
I deleted my snapchat because I was sad. I just got it last night again (new account) to talk to her... but I don't think she saw my friend request at all :(.
Did I dodge a bullet by not going out with her?
Did I wait to long to make up my mind?
What should I do now?
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If you guys were talking for 2 months there's no reason why you shouldn't have met in person yet unless you live hundreds of miles away from each other. You waited too long. She may not have been the perfect girl in your head, but you liked her enough to continue talking to her even after you learned she had a child, is chubby and not in school. You guys could have been great friends or eventually maybe she would have lost the weight, got back in school and you would have got used to the kid and had a beautiful relationship. Or you could have hit it a few times and got pussy whipped.
You did all that hesitating for nothing. She wanted to meet up and exchange numbers and you hesitated like she asked you to get married. Thats on you, you waited to long. Next time strike while the iron is hot and take it to the next step quickly.
She probably sent you the picture of the guy because she felt like you were wasting her time. It seems like she wanted to show you "this could have been you but you were playing". I mean she does sound immature, but you kinda do to with this perfect girl fantasy. People still have those?0