I am 27 and have been dating a girl since the beginning of August (we met on Match and probably started talking mid-to-late July).
We are going on our 8th date tonight (she invited me out with her roommate and roommate's boyfriend) and I think now is a good time to define the relationship, but is it too soon?
Our dates have been great. Lots of conversation, lots of laughs, just good times and I really like her. We communicate every day. We recently agreed to see more of each other and we're starting to) and also recently had sex. She never denies my PDA (kissing, hand-holding, etc.).
Some might say it's too soon, but I also don't want to wait too long to suggest it. I get the feeling that she won't bring it up because she seems timid with making the first move/stating how she feels. She once admitted that it was a good thing I initiated a makeout session because otherwise we would have just sat there.
Long story short, I really want to take this to the next level, but fear the rejection. I have hinted that I'm not multi-dating when she has mentioned Match and she has said she doesn't have the time/energy to date anyone else, but still is still checking her messages while waiting for her subscription to end. I wasn't sure how to view that.
I guess the cliff notes question is: Should I tell her tonight that I want to be exclusive/makes things official when we get a chance to talk alone (and not around the other couple)? If so, how do I word it? Is something like, "I'm just going to throw this out there. I really like you and spending time with you and I'd like to make this exclusive and official. How do you feel?"
I think she obviously likes me, I am just nervous to ask this as I always fear the worst.
Thanks for any help!
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Don't worry about time constraints, every couple moves at their own unique pace. Do I think it's too few dates/too short amount of time? No, I think it's a perfectly acceptable timeline. Her telling you that she is still checking her messages til her subscription ran out because: She wants you to know that she realizes it's not official yet but that she's thinking about it (letting the subscription run out). Plus she's not dating other people. ALSO, I think once you've started having a sexual relationship, you're there bud. Your wording for your delivery is good too. I bet she says yes before you finish your statement :) Good luck to you.0