Hello! I just got out of a 4 year relationship and have been hanging with a new girl for a couple months. We've had sex twice (for awhile I had zero sexual desire) and we hang out on average 2-3 times a week. Right now we're FWB, but she has admitted to "catching feelings" and wanting something more but she is so cool that she understands me not wanting a relationship and is fine with it (obviously not). I feel guilty getting close and intimate with her because I feel like im leading her on, or building her up so the fall is even harsher. I love her personality and I am attracted to her but something inside me says it doesn't feel right. I never got that spark with her that I did with my previous long term relationships (that feeling of falling in love and knowing something is right) . I'm also first year in college, working weekends, and broke. Being at college I obviously see tons of women around but none that have taken a liking to me with it being mutual. Am I too shallow or just afraid of commitment?
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I was in exactly the same boat last year! And I totally know the feelings you're going through. At the time I kept thinking I was never going to find anyway who I could be in a relationship that I loved etc. and when I met this guy - 2 months later, we went out for a couple of months and then I ended up dumping him after going overseas for another 2 months (everything is two months?) and then that night I realised I needed to just give him a chance and I found out that we're a great match! So I think because it might still be a bit of a fresh wound.. Don't feel you have to hurl yourself into a relationship. Having said that don't lead the poor girl on, I'd be clear that a relationship might not be what you're looking for right now. Hope this was helpful!1