Do yo have any reasons why you'd absolutely not date someone or be in a serious relationship with them?
What are your deal breakers for the opposite gender?
What Guys Said 30
Apart from the obvious choices like lying, cheating, etc...
Would never date a girl that ______:
-refused to shave or wax her armpits REGULARLY.
-isn't a fan of giving head.
-is not book smart or street smart.
-is a drama magnet.
-would have problems with all vacations being family oriented.6
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Dishonest. #1 deal breaker, for sure.
Unintelligent. Have tried 'very pretty, but kind of dumb' a couple of times and I just can't do it. Not going to try it again.
Unkind. Particularly to animals, children, or waiters.
Uncompromising. Two different people with two different sets of goals will need compromise to move forward together.
No interests or hobbies. Something that she is passionate about or interested in. They need to have a personality, and need to be active in pursuing activities that support that personality.
Excessive hard core drug use. Excessive soft core drug use too, I suppose, at this point in my life.
Those are deal breakers. There are obviously other things that would make me more or less inclined to date someone, but the above is pretty much a mandatory "must not have" list.1
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Dealbreakers (as in reason to break up, and never consider getting em back)
Reasons to not date
* Treating others like crap (i judge a person by how they treat others)
* Reputation for doing what mentioned under "dealbreakers"
* Being superficial/shallow
* Being a dramaqueen
* Total lack of manners
* Total lack of care for their own body (girls, that does not mean you have to wear makeup and all that. Simply keep your body reasonably healthy, and don't misstreat it)
* being dumb as a brick. (Sorry if i offend someone, but enjoy a good mental sparring partner way more than someone that's downright stupid)
I think that's the main ones...0
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ghetto like behavior when you are actually very intelligent
being loud and obnoxious
annoying to my friends
my friends don't like you
my parents don't like you
and in the end i wouldn't like you3
Ok I don't belong in this pool - been married for many years with grown kids, but this question intrigued me.
IF I were dating again the absolute show stopper in my mind would be:
. TOBACCO USE !
I won't go into the reasons why, (there are too many) unless you ask for them. But I positively absolutely would not date a woman who is a smoker. Done.0
A LOT of reasons why I wouldn't date someone.
-Lack of hygiene - breath constantly killing me
-Lack of manners - mom always said, if she burps, farts etc... too early on... it's not the right pick.
-Lack of politeness - if she is really rude or inconsiderate...
-If she is fat, it simply turns me off as I'm very athletic geared and look for a fast pace, active, gym lifestyle.0
They have the same name as my sister, or look like any family member/remind me of them too much2
-Lack of sexual attraction towards her
-Ghetto accent and/or slang
-Participation in illicit activities (outside of the occasional blunt or drink)
-Raging insecurity or emotional instability
-Promiscuity or being a prude2
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opposes legal pot
doesn't like anal
serious about any religion
won't jump at any opportunity for fellatio
1) Wayy too many guy friends
A history of cheating.2
Resorts to name calling if she's proven wrong.
Dishonest (excluding little white lies, nobody's perfect)1
- tries to change me (can't accept me for who I am)
- masculine mannerisms
Glued to her phone all day
Loud and or annoying voice
No sense of fashion
Doesn't want the D0
-calls herself princess
-signs of being selfish (rly selfish)
-talking like a brainless person (lots of hä? what?)
-signs of no interest (ok, k, lol, yeah instead of something that would take the conversation further)0
- facial piercings, gauges, excessive tattoos
- is not a virgin (meaning she has had intercourse)
- is not "down to earth"
- does not uphold good morals
If they lie
are close minded
If she's cool and she likes me, I'll make it work (until the prior doesn't hold tru).1
Goes out partying every weekend.
Has a mental disorder
Has serious health issues.
Has a history of being promiscuous or cheating1
smoking , drinks every weekend , has kids , has tats , looks ugly, is fat. takes drugs. eats junk food all the time1
What Girls Said 21
Well I don't really have a lot of dealbreakes. I can hardly stand my parents half the time, so no surprise if he couldn't get along lol. However I do want him to make a effort to know them as such. I had to deal with them all my life so he should cope as well.
Of course I would not want him to be a smoker or excessive drinker and be in good health and average looking. It would be ideal if he was studying or he has a good job he likes.
I think if he didn't care about me that's a deal breaker. That would be like in any situation no-one wants to be treated badly!.2
I wouldn't date a guy who
- Uses illegal drugs
- Drinks too much
- Is abusive
- Is a criminal
- Is disrespectful
- Is too dominant in the bedroom (or even way too submissive. A balance is great)
- Doesn't get along with my family, especially my brothers
- Spends too much money, or even worse, constantly spends money they don't have (credit cards, loans)
That seems like a lot when I write it down :/0
I love animals. I usually have a lot of pets, and I foster pets as well. But I have my pitbull and cat, so if anyone ever had a problem with my babies. Um no, sorry. But I choose my pets anyday. Lol I will never get rid of them because I love them with all my heart. And if the guy or girl I decide to be with can't accept that, tough shit lol Next! :P0
- not loyal
- flirt with other girls
- lack stability and maturity
- douche bag
- isn't smart at least street smart
- mummy boy
- do drug/pot/weed etc
- couch potato
- no kindness/consideration for others (too self centred)0
more than 3 inches shorter than me
hates romantic stuff
plays video games all day
doesn't laugh or smile
no focus on career
doesn't earn his own money
atheist (I'm Catholic and i don't mind if he's a different religion or if he wasn't raised religious but I don't think it would work out if he firmly believed there is no God.0
dishonesty! Does it every time1
I wouldn't even think about being with a guy that :
Isn't a Muslim
Goes to clubs or bars
Doesn't respect his parents
Swears a lot
A guy that's never worked a day in his life0
- non attractive, I prefer guys I can look at and think *wow, he's mine*
- bad style
- smells bad
- fat in any way, I like trained guys0
really yellow teeth
mean to me, my family, or my friends
short since I'm fairly tall
does extreme drugs (meth, coke, etc)
cocky in the bad way0
if he's clearly of a lower intelligence than me because personally I think its important in relationships that you both have a similar iq0
Lying, cheating, smoking/drugs, no logic, no passion, bad attitude (rude, egocentrism, etc.)0
Drinks on a daily
Plays mind games not serious
Is not funny0
2. long hair
3. doesn't have his life together (ex :didn't go to school)0
1. Vain guy- what important for them is their look. 2. Smoker. 3. bad hygeine. 4. Short than me0
Smoking. I hate smoking.1
- if he's short
- isn't intelligent
- if I'm not attracted to him1
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