What are your deal breakers for the opposite gender?

Do yo have any reasons why you'd absolutely not date someone or be in a serious relationship with them?


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  • Apart from the obvious choices like lying, cheating, etc...

    Would never date a girl that ______:
    -refused to shave or wax her armpits REGULARLY.
    -isn't a fan of giving head.
    -is not book smart or street smart.
    -is a drama magnet.
    -is fat.
    -would have problems with all vacations being family oriented.

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  • Dishonest. #1 deal breaker, for sure.

    Unintelligent. Have tried 'very pretty, but kind of dumb' a couple of times and I just can't do it. Not going to try it again.

    Unkind. Particularly to animals, children, or waiters.

    Uncompromising. Two different people with two different sets of goals will need compromise to move forward together.

    No interests or hobbies. Something that she is passionate about or interested in. They need to have a personality, and need to be active in pursuing activities that support that personality.

    Excessive hard core drug use. Excessive soft core drug use too, I suppose, at this point in my life.

    Those are deal breakers. There are obviously other things that would make me more or less inclined to date someone, but the above is pretty much a mandatory "must not have" list.

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    • Those are pretty decent. What kind of hobbies are cool to you or does it matter?

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    • It is worth doing once for sure. I would highly recommend it. Flight lesson is very cool, that'll be pretty intense too I would think. Fun :)

    • Thanks! :)

  • Dealbreakers (as in reason to break up, and never consider getting em back)
    * Unfaithfullness
    * Cheating

    Reasons to not date
    * Treating others like crap (i judge a person by how they treat others)
    * Reputation for doing what mentioned under "dealbreakers"
    * Being superficial/shallow
    * Being a dramaqueen
    * Total lack of manners
    * Total lack of care for their own body (girls, that does not mean you have to wear makeup and all that. Simply keep your body reasonably healthy, and don't misstreat it)
    * being dumb as a brick. (Sorry if i offend someone, but enjoy a good mental sparring partner way more than someone that's downright stupid)

    I think that's the main ones...

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    • so if they're overweight?

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    • Yup. Demanding what you can't give (unless it's gender biased. And even then you should give something equal) just makes you a hypcrite XD

    • true!!

  • -poor hygiene
    -below average intelligence
    -promiscuous
    -lacks modesty
    -doesn't seem trustworthy
    -hardcore drug use
    -smokes cigarettes
    -drinks excessively
    -goes clubbing every week
    -considers herself to be either a "belieber or a directioner"

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    • are there any girls with poor hygiene?

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    • @MissMarvelous Normally I won't judge a persons taste in music but those two are the exception :)

    • hahaha ok. Yeah, I don't know many girls with bad BO, but I have met guys with baadd bo where their apartments smell too!

  • - smokes cigarettes
    - too common drinking habits
    - smokes weed
    - does any other extreme drug
    - bitchy behavior
    - "resolving" conflicts by name-calling
    - displaying physical violence
    - likes Twilight

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  • ghetto like behavior when you are actually very intelligent
    being loud and obnoxious
    annoying to my friends
    my friends don't like you
    my parents don't like you
    and in the end i wouldn't like you

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  • Ok I don't belong in this pool - been married for many years with grown kids, but this question intrigued me.

    IF I were dating again the absolute show stopper in my mind would be:
    . TOBACCO USE !

    I won't go into the reasons why, (there are too many) unless you ask for them. But I positively absolutely would not date a woman who is a smoker. Done.

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    • Hey, so what do you think of the other girls' and guys' responses on here since you are married? Are we realistic or unrealistic?

  • A LOT of reasons why I wouldn't date someone.

    -Lack of hygiene - breath constantly killing me
    -Lack of manners - mom always said, if she burps, farts etc... too early on... it's not the right pick.
    -Lack of politeness - if she is really rude or inconsiderate...
    -If she is fat, it simply turns me off as I'm very athletic geared and look for a fast pace, active, gym lifestyle.

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    • how soon is too soon according to your mom?

  • They have the same name as my sister, or look like any family member/remind me of them too much

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  • -Lack of sexual attraction towards her
    -Ghetto accent and/or slang
    -Incredible stupidity
    -Participation in illicit activities (outside of the occasional blunt or drink)
    -Raging insecurity or emotional instability
    -Incredible stupidity
    -Rudeness
    -Constant bitching
    -Promiscuity or being a prude

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  • overweight
    opposes legal pot
    doesn't like anal
    serious about any religion
    faulty memory
    worries excessively
    won't jump at any opportunity for fellatio
    bad hygene

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    • doesn't like anal? wow lol

  • 1) Wayy too many guy friends
    2) Lying
    3) Cheating

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  • I would absolutely not date someone if;
    She's adamant that she wants kids in the future.
    She's right wing.
    She lends any credibility whatsoever to Astrology.
    Or if she owns a pair of Ugg Boots.

    Zero tolerance for any of the above shit.

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  • A history of cheating.

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  • Dishonest
    Complete bimbo
    Close-minded
    Rude
    Really Rachet
    Not healthy
    Can't take a joke
    Can't handle my lifestyle.

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    • hmmm what's your lifestyle?

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    • so someone who can give you lots of space and you see her like once a week?

    • Someone who understands that I have priorities and respects that I dedicate a lot of time to manage a business. I am still willing to spend any after hours or my 1 day off with her.

  • Does drugs
    Religious
    Closed minded
    Rude
    Resorts to name calling if she's proven wrong.
    Drama Queen
    Obese
    Dishonest (excluding little white lies, nobody's perfect)

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  • -ugly
    -entitled
    - tries to change me (can't accept me for who I am)
    -fat
    - masculine mannerisms
    -stupid

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    • hmmm what are some masculine mannerisms?

  • Conceited
    Air head
    Glued to her phone all day
    Flirtatious
    Irresponsible

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  • Can't cook
    Low maintenance
    Loud and or annoying voice
    crazy disorder
    Kids
    No sense of fashion
    Pet cats
    Doesn't want the D

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  • Too many Facebook friends

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    • hahaha can you really judge people on that one?

    • Well, the other guys had already given you most of the major things, but to some extent, yes. Being connected to hundreds or even thousands of people on social networks, when you don't actually know any of them is a major sign or narcissism. If you just want to spout shit to strangers, there are places like this site. If you want people you know nothing about to know that you're excited about whatever your weekend plans are, then you're a self involved idiot.

    • hahaha interesting view... now I wonder if I have too many friends on fb!

  • Kids.

    Fat.

    Divorced.

    Not same race as me.

    And usually, if she's got a short haircut. That's not so much a deal breaker as if she does that, I probably won't even notice her in public.

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    • ah, so you like long hair?

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    • says the guy that thinks blacks and whites are of a different species.

    • Either that was someone else @Tokana or you're too retarded to actually repeat things accurately. :)

  • -calls herself princess
    -signs of being selfish (rly selfish)
    -talking like a brainless person (lots of hä? what?)
    -signs of no interest (ok, k, lol, yeah instead of something that would take the conversation further)

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  • - facial piercings, gauges, excessive tattoos
    - is not a virgin (meaning she has had intercourse)
    - is not "down to earth"
    - does not uphold good morals
    - obese

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  • If they lie
    are close minded
    flirty

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  • ¤Too girly.
    ¤Very clingy.
    ¤Full of shnit.
    ¤Disloyal.
    ¤Smoker.
    ¤Party animal.
    ¤Always Paranoid.

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  • mustache ha ha I mean on a girl.

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    • hahaha oh, just that? wow lol

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    • mustache is mustache, blonde or whatever.

    • hahaha ok

  • If she's cool and she likes me, I'll make it work (until the prior doesn't hold tru).

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  • Goes out partying every weekend.
    Smokes
    Does drugs
    High maintenance
    Too immature
    Has a mental disorder
    Has serious health issues.
    Has a history of being promiscuous or cheating

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  • smoking , drinks every weekend , has kids , has tats , looks ugly, is fat. takes drugs. eats junk food all the time

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  • Being a feminist is a deal breaker for me. Life's too short.

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    • what is wrong with you

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    • so you want a stay at home mom?

    • Of course I want a stay at home mom for my kids while they are young. I care about my children and think they deserve to be raised by a mother who loves them rather than a "paid childcare professional" who couldn't care less about them or the next child. Don't you think children deserve a real mother? Or do you not care that much about your own children?

What Girls Said 21

  • Well I don't really have a lot of dealbreakes. I can hardly stand my parents half the time, so no surprise if he couldn't get along lol. However I do want him to make a effort to know them as such. I had to deal with them all my life so he should cope as well.
    Of course I would not want him to be a smoker or excessive drinker and be in good health and average looking. It would be ideal if he was studying or he has a good job he likes.
    I think if he didn't care about me that's a deal breaker. That would be like in any situation no-one wants to be treated badly!.

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  • I wouldn't date a guy who

    - Smokes
    - Uses illegal drugs
    - Drinks too much
    - Lies
    - Is abusive
    - Cheats
    - Is a criminal
    - Is disrespectful
    - Is too dominant in the bedroom (or even way too submissive. A balance is great)
    - Doesn't get along with my family, especially my brothers
    - Spends too much money, or even worse, constantly spends money they don't have (credit cards, loans)

    That seems like a lot when I write it down :/

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    • Nice! Good list there.

  • he doesn't do as I say ;)

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  • I love animals. I usually have a lot of pets, and I foster pets as well. But I have my pitbull and cat, so if anyone ever had a problem with my babies. Um no, sorry. But I choose my pets anyday. Lol I will never get rid of them because I love them with all my heart. And if the guy or girl I decide to be with can't accept that, tough shit lol Next! :P

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    • agreed! :)

    • Lol I mean liars/cheaters are a no no. But I always talk about my pets, so if they show any dislike towards them. nope. We will never go further than that.

      And Lmao! All these guys are against fat chicks. I did not know our weight was that important :x

    • hahaha I know! I wonder how fat is fat to them though. Some of them are talking about the 300 lb kinda girls who are 5 ft tall... I think that's a little different.

  • 1. Not smart (street and book)
    2. Excessively clingy. There's a difference between clingy and affectionate.
    3. Insecure
    4. Does drugs
    5. Infidelity
    6. Won't grow up
    7. Dishonesty about major things
    8. Doesn't listen to anything pertaining to the bedroom

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    • Lol where do you draw the line on clinginess?

    • If the guy is metaphorically hanging on my leg, then he has to learn to catch himself when he's doing it or I'm done.

  • - not loyal
    - flirt with other girls
    - lack stability and maturity
    - douche bag
    - isn't smart at least street smart
    - mummy boy
    - do drug/pot/weed etc
    - couch potato
    - gamble
    - disrespectful
    - no kindness/consideration for others (too self centred)

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  • smoker
    does drugs
    more than 3 inches shorter than me
    egocentric
    not inteligent
    hates books
    hates dogs
    hates romantic stuff
    negativity
    plays video games all day
    doesn't laugh or smile
    irresponsible
    no focus on career
    doesn't earn his own money
    spoiled
    atheist (I'm Catholic and i don't mind if he's a different religion or if he wasn't raised religious but I don't think it would work out if he firmly believed there is no God.

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  • dishonesty! Does it every time

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  • I wouldn't even think about being with a guy that :

    Isn't a Muslim
    Smokes
    Drinks
    Does drugs
    Goes to clubs or bars
    Doesn't respect his parents
    Swears a lot
    Selfish
    Lies
    Vain
    Not ambitious
    A guy that's never worked a day in his life

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  • -conceited
    -disrespectful
    -player aka slutty boy
    -niggas who are pressed about their Honda and toyota
    That's all I can think of right now

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    • hahahaha what is the last one?

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    • Mercedes, BMW, ferrari, maserati, rolls Royce, volkswaggen, Lamborghini, audi those are European cars my guy has to like those type of cars and if I marry a husband that doesn't like those cars but likes Nissan and Honda I'll be okay with it but one thing for sure is that he's not gonna drive my European luxury exotic cars lol

    • hahaha oh okay, gotcha.

  • - smoking
    - non attractive, I prefer guys I can look at and think *wow, he's mine*
    - bad style
    - smells bad
    - fat in any way, I like trained guys

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  • really yellow teeth
    mean to me, my family, or my friends
    short since I'm fairly tall
    does extreme drugs (meth, coke, etc)
    smelly
    obnoxious
    abusive
    liar
    cheater
    cocky in the bad way

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  • if he's clearly of a lower intelligence than me because personally I think its important in relationships that you both have a similar iq

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  • drinking
    smoking
    dishonest
    submissive

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    • ohhh submissive, interesting. Why not a submissive guy?

    • cause its a turn off for me. i dont like it. i once met a very submissive guy who was kind of obsessed with me even though i never intended to have something more with him than friendship. but he started to be so clingy, like a girl, and even cry and stuff.. that's just a no no

    • hmmmm yeah, I met a guy like that... but he turned out to be bi...

  • Lying, cheating, smoking/drugs, no logic, no passion, bad attitude (rude, egocentrism, etc.)

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  • Smokes
    Drinks on a daily
    Plays mind games not serious
    Is not funny

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  • 1. smokes
    2. long hair
    3. doesn't have his life together (ex :didn't go to school)

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    • yeah... I can't date anyone w/o a college degree. sadly. I am too biased I think.

  • 1. Vain guy- what important for them is their look. 2. Smoker. 3. bad hygeine. 4. Short than me

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    • ugghhh I dated a guy w/ bad hygiene and it was... so bad. I tried to be nice.

  • Smoking. I hate smoking.

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  • Not attractive, overweight, addict, nerdy/sissy.

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    • nerd/sissy haha. What about smart guys?

    • I like smart guys :)

    • Me too! :)

  • - if he's short
    - isn't intelligent
    - if I'm not attracted to him

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