Why is it when things don't work out for both genders male or female, the opposite gender is at fault? But if your having the same thing happen over and over again wouldn't you think that maybe it's really not them it's you? Why are so many people against self observation and taking the time to really get to know what they might be doing wrong? Why is it not acceptable to give yourself time to be single and work on yourself?
I'm only asking because when you look at some of the questions being asked and you tell them to self-observe themselves they take offense when it's actually just something I think must be done in life anyway. They completely take the opinion out of proportion and make it seem like it's this negative thing; so why does it seem like there's a stigma surrounded by this idea?
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Most people seem to have some self-esteem issues. Even those that project a pretty solid image of confidence are often really lacking self-esteem internally. A new relationship crumbling early is a fairly big hit to confidence if it was the other person ending it (and you will not see nearly as many cases of 'it was all their fault' being complained about by the 'dumper', it's usually the 'dumpee' who complains).
So, with this fragile self-esteem at serious risk of another major hit, a lot of people just lash out and blame to other person for the failure, to try and deflect the blame and make themselves feel better. The larger the stereotype they can blame, the less it seems like it can get flipped back to them, to their fault.
If I say "AutumnBloom dumped me, she is a bitch" then it is pretty easy for people to say "Whaaa? No, I know her, she is super sweet! It must be a problem with you."
If I say "I just got dumped, why are girls that wear hats so bitchy all the time" you will start to get some other people that have had negative experiences with a hat-wearer that will chime in and agree, though still, a lot of people will say "No, my gf wears a hat and she is awesome. Every day is steak & bj day. Hat wearers are the BEST. It must be something wrong with you."
If I say "I was acting like a real gentleman and this girl just dumped me. Why are girls all bitches?" you suddenly have every guy that has ever had a girl act bitchy pop and say "yeah, I was a gentleman too, and my girl dumped me! For NO reason! They are bitches!" The few people trying to argue against this seething mob just get dismissed "oh, you just got lucky, yours is a keeper, she's not like the rest".
Then the person can put some fake "it's ok" sauce on their self-esteem, because all these other guys have agreed that it must be just the fact that girls are bitches. Couldn't be anything wrong with them. These guys agree because they feel it to.
TL:DR - ego/esteem preservation1