So I really need advice on how to confront my boyfriend and tell him that I'm actually scared for our honey moon in two months. When I met my boyfriend three years ago I knew he was the one for me. No doubt about it. He was the first and I know he is going to be my last. We recently got engaged and there is nothing in the world that would make me happier BUT just yesterday he made a confession he told me that he expects me to be a submissive (sexually) and kept on saying all types of weird things. Now, here is the problem I'm actually getting kind of intimidated because I'm a VIRGIN and I'm getting the feeling he has no clue. How can I make this confession to him? If I tell him this will he find it weird and leave me for someone more experienced?
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Personally, if he, like many other people, have gone through the whole crazy of a relationship, I find that discovering that your girlfriend, or better yet, your fiance is a virgin, isn't a deal breaker at all.
There are tastes for everything, but I would say someone being a virgin is actually a good thing. That means you haven't opened up to anyone besides him, that you are willing to go further than anyone else but him, and that is sort of special by itself.
Like in many things, you are supposed to learn from one another, experience things together, and just enjoy each others company. You being a virgin isn't a bad thing, not knowing how sex works and the sorts. It's another experience you will be sharing with him, possibly.
I see no problem with that, and really, if someone were to leave someone for such a trivial thing, that person just isn't mature enough to be in a relationship to begin with. Just the thought of leaving someone because of that seems ludicrous by how absurd that sounds.
I suggest telling him though, and that he should be gentle. I also suggest highly that you study a bit about your virginity and know of what happens usually when you "lose" it. Such as that your hymen will be torn when having sex, if this is your first time, and thus you may or may not bleed a little and feel a sting or a bit of pain at first. I won't go over it all, but just take a quick gander on the subject so you know how to deal with the situation, or to explain it to him since some might not be aware of such things.0