I broke up with my ex of a year and half 3 months ago, then I regretted it. So since then we were kind of 'working things out'(he was in love with me but because of my inability to express my feelings, he felt I'm looking for companionship), then broke up for another couple weeks.
then one day we met, he said he loves me so we decided to really work things out (take it slow and really know each other).
A week after he came to my place and spent the night together (no sex). And I haven't heard from him for two days and I got a fever and cold, so i called him and texted him that I'm sick (expecting his caring reaction), but his just said 'are you ok', and I asked him to call me, but he said he was sleepy. so I texted said 'i guess you just don't care', then he replied 'WTF? Cause I'm exhuasted? I guess I forgot its all about you. I'll call you tomorrow'.
And it's been four days already, I haven't heard from him.
I don't know why was he suddenly angry at me and what should I do. I need some insight please.
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He's not mad at you because he thinks "It's all about you." He's mad at you because you didn't want to have sex with him that day he slept over.
Like a lot of relationships today, a lot of people put sex as the top priority, which is a BIG wrong. When you rejected the desire to have sex with him, because you're still working things out, being patient, and taking it slow, he felt like you were rejecting him altogether. And that feel of rejection pushed him away from you because he thought you had totally lost interest in him, just because you didn't wanna do it with him.
Then when you texted him and told him you were sick, and asked him to call you, he snapped at you because he felt that you were thinking that him giving you attention was more priority than you giving him attention. Now, I will level with you. "I guess you just don't care" was definitely not a good phrase to use when you're trying to make amends with an ex, so you were wrong on that part. And if he stopped texting and calling you because of that one night, probably shoot him a text, saying sorry about getting upset that one night, and see where that goes. But in all honestly, if he's really serious about making up with you, he wouldn't let a night of rejected sex and one not-so-nice text drive him away from you.1