I am 23 years old, and I always notice that people a few years younger than me are getting married so quickly, only to end up divorced in a year or two.
I also see older people getting married as well, and their relationship eventually crumbles and they get divorced as well. All of my friends parents (except for 2) are all divorced. Everyone on my mom and dad's side of the family are all divorced (except for them)... but my parents have hinted at splitting up before when my brother and I leave move out for good.
Anyway, what is the point of marriage? I just feel like people get married for "show". Weddings are expensive and most marriages don't last anymore. People get divorced, get into a new relationship, get married again... and then get divorced. Does that really make any sense? I don't think that love should be defined by marriage.
Personally, I don't want to get married. If I find a woman I care about, I wouldn't mind just being boyfriend & girlfriend for life or until we break up.
When you love someone, it's not the marriage that defines it. It's the little things you do for them that show how much you care!
Do you want to get married? Why?
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- I Don't Want To Get Married, BUT I Want A PartnerVote A
- I Want To Get Married Some DayVote B
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I want to get married. I think it's very important to know your spouse frontward and backward and inside and out and right side up and upside down before getting married. I think a lot of people like the idea of marriage more than the actual act of marriage. I think they get whisked up in the romantic notion of marriage and don't really stop to make sure they really have what it takes to make a marriage work. They dated a year and got married? Oh good, please tell me how much you can get to know a whole other person in 365 days.
I think marriage takes a lot of patience and understanding and I don't think that a lot of people have enough of either of those things when they decide to get married.
People are like books. You can't know what will happen just by reading the first chapter. You need to read the whole book. Then you reread it and learn new things every time you read it. I read somewhere that it takes 3 years to really get to know another person. Why would you marry someone you didn't really know?2