I've been seeing this guy for almost two months now. We've been having sex since date three and we see each other about once a week. In between dates we really only talk to make plans/small talk. Our dates have ranged from getting drinks to watching netflix. He's also introduced me to all his friends, which I know is a good sign. I'm really starting to like him but I know it's too soon for the "what are we/are we exclusive" talk. Yet I also know I am getting attached emotionally so I don't want to wait too long to have that talk either. My fear is that he doesn't actually want anything serious and that he likes having sex with me and that's it.
What do you think?
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Introducing to friends is a good sign. However, only seeing each other once a week for netflix and sex, plus little communication in between is not good. You're right, it may be a bit soon to bring up the "talk" even if he is interested in more, so it's probably best to act according to what feels right to you to figure it out. For example, suggest that your next date be somewhere public (like a real date) and don't sleep with him. Make up some reasonable excuse as to why you can't come over.
A man who wants to be your boyfriend will be perfectly fine with this, a man who is not will be annoyed. Not having sex on one date is normal in a relationship. I understand that means you'll go over a week without hooking up, but that's his fault for only wanting to see you once a week.
See how he reacts after this. If he handles it well and still asks you to hang out again after, then maybe attempt to bring up the "talk." I find it's best not to do it in a direct, "What are we," way. But more in a, "Listen I don't know if you're seeing other people, but I personally don't like sleeping around, and want to be on the same page on what we're doing physically/emotionally here" way. That way, you're still giving the impression that you didn't assume the role of girlfriend yet, and want to know for yourself, not for him. You'll know depending on where he takes that questions as to where you stand.0