I think I should tell you what kind of girl I am. I don't date casually (would like a serious interaction), humble, I am objectively beautiful, my dress sense is classy, I love wearing heels, I'm a goof and extremely funny, philosophical, kind, always smiling and a good friend (sociable). These things I know because my friends describe me like that. I am highly intelligent (doing a PhD) and enjoy helping people. I have throughout my life.. met several guys and been asked out by several men. However, when it comes down to it... guys never like me enough to start a real relationship with me. Guys will say "You're special" .. don't know what that is supposed to mean but I'm clearly not special enough for them to want me haha. I accept that guys don't like me and I have tried for years to change myself and improve myself. I've asked my friends and dear ones and they say its not me, I'm perfectly fine and amazing but its the guys. But I believe it is me since I am the common denominator in this. Guys will always have dated the last girl or next girl but somehow I am not worth that commitment. And then people get surprised when I say no guys never like me (usually as a response to friends who think I have had boyfriends or have one). I have given up and know that even when it feels right, somehow it'll never happen for me. I met the absolute perfect guy and he did everything for me. One day we kissed (he kissed me) and he suddenly decided that he doesn't want to take it further with me. I never pressured him, he chased me and he claims we had a click. So I wonder what is so hideous about me that a guy would'nt even want to give me that place in their life. A part of me is dying.. because I am exhausted by this failure. At one point you realise, you're just never going to be good enough for a guy. I'd still like some insight as to what makes a guy want to commit to a girl and why they don't commit to a girl even if they seem to like her?
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I am going to see a dating coach, David wygant, I suggest you do the same. To me you seem too straight-laced and thus boring. I like a girl that stands out and is different but every guy is different. You should find out what makes you you and different from all the other girls and go from there. Why should a guy commit to you rather than any of the other girls out there.0