I am nice, attractive, take care of my body, in university doing a great degree that will allow me to completely support myself, I don't smoke I am able to be the active laid back girl and the sexy dressed up girl at the same time... I just can't seem to find a decent guy :(
The only guys who ever hit on me are douchebags and guys i meet at the bar or club. I don't have any guy friends and my program in university is primarily all girls.
How do you even get a boyfriend?
I am 20.
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Guys in bars and clubs are likely looking to be with you for a night. That isn't universally true, for both men and women, but a higher percentage of the time, it is. So if you're looking to hook up, it gives you a good chance, but a good boyfriend is less likely.
At your age, "normal" guys don't have much social savvy and probably will be shy/not confident in speaking with women. Bold guys are probably already experienced and successful with women (a few relationships, mainly hookups).
Here's the rub--in all likelihood, you are attracted to the "douches" (as you put it). This is really common. Women, in general, are attracted to men who are confident AND who have been successful with other women. "Nice guys" who gets friend-zoned don't have confidence or success with women, which is why you probably aren't attracted to them, but nice guys make up the greatest % of men. At your age, your choice is between "douches" and guys who, frankly, suck with women. Other people are going to tell you to stop being too picky, give some nice guys a chance--bollocks, awful advice, do not settle (ESPECIALLY as young as you are).
When you say "I can't find a decent guy," typically, I have found that means "I can't find a guy who is sexy like the douches but also has many other fine qualities." These guys definitely exist, but you probably aren't going to find one at your age, and they are the rarest sort of person--and they get so much attention from women that they don't have to choose a single girl unless they are so inclined.
So here's my suggestion--go on a bunch of dates with all kinds of men, just for fun and experience. Don't put pressure on yourself for a boyfriend (or pressure on him--people don't respond to it, romantically). By doing this, you'll become really good at dealing with men, and by sheer force of numbers, you will be more likely to land one of those rare gents I mentioned.
Remember, have fun ;)0