my boyfriend used to work with/chase around a girl before we started dating. she would always keep him hanging by a thread and he really really liked her. he still continues to speak to her insisting that they are just friends. she seems to always be around on nights that i can't go out, and on these nights he will come home belligerent and sometimes with a ripped shirt (?). I feel uncomfortable with the fact that they are still friends on Facebook and communicate. am I being unreasonable? because he seems to think i am trying to control him.
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Based on what their relationship was (him chasing her) you have reason to worry. You can't tell him what to do, but you can let him know how it makes you feel and that it makes you not want to invest as much in the relationship. It's reasonable for him to speak with her or talk or even hangout. Hanging out alone with her late at night is not reasonable. Something I do is i just say, "I can't tell you what to do, I just ask that you avoid situations that could look bad. That if someone from the outside looking in saw, they would think it's something it's not". That means no movie nights at her place when it is just them in the house alone. Not talking on the phone late past midnight and all that jazz2