Hey peeps! :)
I met a guy in a bar in August and we have been dating for about a month and a half.
A couple of his friends were there to celebrate a guy's birthday and when my guy (let's call him J) saw me he couldn't stop staring at me let alone talk to his friends. He eventually managed to tell the guy he was sitting next to (let's call him D) that he had never seen anyone as beautiful as me and that he wanted to go and talk to me but didn't know how. D then decided to do it. At first he was hitting on me. A lot. And he got really pushy. When he realised it wasn't working he told me his friend at the table, J, had an ex that cheated on him twice. This is where I got annoyed and asked him why in the world he was telling me this, that I doubted J wanted him to go around and telling people. He was saying this infront of my friends and we were about 10 people..
Later that night J and I was waiting by the subway and he got the courage to come up and talk to me. He doesn't know that D told me abot his ex or that he was hitting on me.
Everytime D is around he is saying something really inappropriate, talking about J's ex in front of me, saying it's a shame J's got dibs on me and so on. J, his friends, my friends and I were all hanging out and afterwards my friends told me that it seems like D is trying to ruin it things for me and J.
J and I were cuddling at his place he let it slip that D had told him that I was way out of J's league (which is absolutely crazy). I said "what? That's ridiculous." I kissed him and we talked about it. I was so close to tell him that D didn't seem like a real friend but I kept my mouth shut because I really don't want to be THAT girl. I don't want to cause any drama and I definitely don't want to ruin anything between him and me or him and D because it'll just hurt J's feelings. He is the sweetest guy and have always been there for D..
What would you guys do in my position? Am I right to keep my mouth shut?
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D needs to be put in his place. J needs to realise that D isn't on his side. Until then he will still listen to D's opinion and who knows how that will affect your relationship. Honestly wins every time. Don't be afraid to tell him. If I was him I'd want to know asap!
You're not trying to ruin the friendship so just mention it casually.0