I'm dating an alpha girl, and I need some tips on how to date such a girl.
First, about her. She's typical alpha - successful, stern, capable, independent, and sarcastic. She doesn't want to accept any help and calls romantic ideas 'amusing'. However, she doesn't have great looks and so she can't find any guy that likes her. She is not entirely alpha all the time though, she regularly hangs out in a community dominated by alpha males. And she is naturally socially awkward. So she becomes a partial beta in those 2 scenarios.
Second, about me. I'm a beta guy, though i love becoming partial alpha when in the midst of betas and gammas. When I'm with my date, i feel slightly awkward as my masculinity is threatened, but in principle i have no objections against her taking charge. I admire how she gets things done, and i don't mind her helping me.
The problem is how do i continue to appeal to my date? She is proactive in asking me out and plans half our dates, but sometimes i feel i disappoint her because of my lack of capability. I'm not sure how she feels though. Because when i asked her if i should be better or I should try harder, she instead remarked that i lack confidence and told me to do whatever i felt like, that there's no point in changing myself just to please someone.
So yeah, how do i appeal to an alpha girl?
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As an alpha and a bitch I always pushed the guy and messed with his head. I pushed to see when he'd fight back the emasculating I do/ be himself/set boundaries. If I say something sarcastic I expect a snarky response. If you ask me how I want you to be I would give that same reply that she did. Why? It is completely boring and annoying to have a guy morph himself for you. It's preferred for the guy to be introspective enough to question himself and have enough confidence to come to an answer that HE thinks is right. The moment he asks me my opinion of him/gives in to me is the moment I lose respect.
She seems mature. So I'll assume she started dating you knowing full well who you are and your personality. Which means she is interested in you because of your current personality, not because she wanted to change you. Which is why she didn't give you an answer on her preference.
Things I look for:
difficult to manipulate or impossible to manipulate
challenges my role - by this I mean in the relationship I'd be the bitchy/dominant one. I want my role to be challenged. Don't let me step on you like a door mat.
not stupid- it means you should be able to talk about a variety of subjects/you can keep up.
As for the romantic things. I also find them entertaining but I also genuinely appreciate it. Not that I'll show it. I think she would too.
Go on as you have been. Appreciate her but do not put her worth above yours and do NOT put her on a pedestal. My bad if this isn't helpful. It's meant to give you insight on what a girl similar to her would want1