When an insecure guy acts like it, you bash him and hate on him, because guys have the duty to be confident in themselves, since they are guys.
Don't get me wrong, insecurity is bad, yes. Confidence is awesome, but it shouldn't be the only thing you go after in guys, just as we shouldn't go only after hot girls. Other aspects should be taken into consideration.
When someone bashes on your insecurity, you get all pissed off, because apparently you are entitled to feel insecure, since you are women, the weaker sex.
So, basically, we HAVE to put up with your crap, but you are entitled to reject guys because they're insecure? And don't bring the "there are millions without insecurity issues" crap here. This also works for men, you know, but if we tell you that, we are labeled as "insensitive, selfish idiots", while you are labeled as "strong, independent and confident"
I'm okay with insecurity (until a certain limit, of course. No one wants a baby as a life partner), but hell, this double standard is kind of stupid (as most of them).
Now, don't come with the "misandry doesn't exist" crap, I hate the Men's Rights Movement just as the average intelligent individual (male or female). Just give me one explanation for this dilemma...
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You raise a very valid point and I completely empathise with you. Yes everyone has insecurities including men, but 'men' by their very definition should display 'alpha' qualities to attract women, this is all biological and ingrained in a women's DNA. The strongest alpha quality is confidence. A man who displays his insecurities is showing signs of weakness which is considered feminine and weak a major turn off for women. It's not that women can't relate to men when it comes to insecurities its just that they don't want to see you looking weak, they want to see strength of character, someone who can carry a women's emotional baggage as well as his own whilst remaining calm, composed and strong. All confident men have insecurities, but alpha men do not display their insecurities, they hide them and deal with them personally until he builds enough strength of character to eventually overcome this considered weak trait.1
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