So, here's my issue... I'm a good looking guy, used to be an athlete, just a tad arrogant (maybe a bit more), started my own company whilst still at uni (which is all on my profile). But I'm completely incapable of talking to girls through text/messaging etc (I'm great in person). I've messaged quite a few girls that have matched with me, yet no response, and I believe this is down to the fact that I am just rubbish at general conversation openers.
I think that sometimes I'm too formal, or even "posh" and I'm not usually funny. I tend to pick something on their profile and mention that, albeit to no avail!
1. What are your tips and advice, and how do you start a conversation.
2. What do you look for on a guys profile?
I deleted my profile off tinder and the dating site since I barely got responses from Matches. Honestly, I am a good looking and genuine guy, along with other things, so it is their loss at the end of the day. :)
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Girls usually don't start the conversation because they don't often need to. Guys, losers, and tools will bombard the inbox, and it's hard to filter through all the scum and find the genuine guys.
Usually you can auto delete the "hey baby" <-doll, beautiful, sexy, etc. (no genuine guy starts a conversation this way)
Also any message that starts with nonsense like "Wanna hook up" <-(wanna fuck, blah blah NEXT!)
If you want to get attention... show that you read her profile. That you genuinely took interest.
"Hi, I noticed you like Such and such. I am super into that as well. What is your favorite thing about it."
This shows you read the profile, have something in common, and that you are interested in knowing more about her ideas.
"Hi, nice pic" is a quick way of saying, "I'm a douche bag, please click delete and block"
I would say that in a guys profile, you lose instantly if you are just showing just a body shot.
Wow you got nice abs, and it's all you want to show, which means you have nothing else going for you!
A pic of you doing something cool. Shows you are fun loving. (Drinking at a party is not fun loving. Frat boys are lame)
Write about actual things you like, not things you hope girls will like. This will always end badly.
Some of us are on there, not because we can't find men around us, we are just tired of douche bags. So putting up an instant Douche bag flag on you profile will 100% get you deleted and ignored. We can find them just by looking around us. Lucky for us, they usually don't realize they are douche bags and they all do the same stupid shit, so it's easier to filter.
As long as you steer clear of cliche meat head crap, you will be fine. Because you will only know what to avoid if you aren't one.10