I've been together with my girlfriend for almost a year, and we've always been really happy together, but I've been feeling like her actions and behaviour have been quite selfish lately. Last night we spoke for the first time in ages, and for most of the call she just walked off or was talking to her family. We manage to see each other every week, but she is always focused on herself, or things that matter to her while I'm over. She'll just invite friends over, or do stuff like clean her sister's room while I'm there, and tell me to just go sit down somewhere for an hour while she does it. We organised to go try this new food in town the other week, and go look for her possible birthday present, just the two of us. She ended up inviting her friend and sister, who didn't want the new food we agreed to try, and just wanted to go home after, so we never looked around at the shops. it's hard to explain, but she has been selfish, I just can't remember any specific examples at the moment. How can I bring this up with her? Because it's really bothering me, and I have no idea what to say without really hurting her.
I feel like my girlfriend is quite selfish and self-centered lately. How do I bring it up with her?
What Girls Said 2
Don't be hateful but ask if there is something wrong. Even if she says there's not there might be girls are most of the time good at hiding there fellings around guys if she says there's not there might not be. But if you plan a date just the two of you ask her to make sure its just the two of you and not the two of you and a friend and sister. Maybe she nerves to go with you alone ask her that. Good luck. :-)0
Tell her u want some us time0
What Guys Said 3
Invite her out somewhere and specify that it's just for the two of you.0
You know what I did, I called her out on it. I told her that she thinks way too much about herself and doesn't seem to give a shit what I say, it opened her eyes.
Give it a shot, be direct like men do0
It sounds like she either isn't into you anymore, or that you have been too giving, and she is taking you for granted. I doubt she is mature enough to take the conversation well. In fact talking about it would likely come off as whining to her, and cause her to think even less of you than she already does. Try making yourself less available. She needs to be putting work into the relationship. I hate playing games, but honestly games do work, which is why so many people use them.1
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