Dated this girl for over a year, her parents meddled completely. Didn't like me despite all the nice stuff I did even for them.
I broke it off 4 months ago and she came back saying she's changed due to counseling and hasn't stopped loving me.
She wants a guy her parents accept, yet she struggles with the reality that she'll never find a guy to make her and her parents happy.
The counselor has taught her to create space between her and her family, and tell them when they're "trespassing", but not boundaries. But I think she doesn't want boundaries from her parents, so is it fair to her for me to date her?
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Although she has gone for counseling, still has these feelings of so called "Love" for you Yet in her heart, bottom line is, no matter Who, no matter What-----She'll never find a guy to make her and her parents happy.
It's an open and shut case with "Mommy and Daddy Dearest" comes First. And if she dares to cross the boundaries of That baby bond, it will break the bough that would cause her cradle to fall and she will not Stand for That.
I married a Muslim out in Egypt. And living there for awhile as I did, I found out fast enough that a wife is secondary and that with "Meet the parents" I met my match, for They superseded me in every way.
If she loves you, wanting this relationship to start up again, she should make you both two birds of a feather. However, I see her swimming in the same old pond with her other two fine feather friends, Donald and Daffy Duck, causing Again-----For you to break it off and This to just go dead in the water.
It's a dead horse, NuclearB., Nothing will change, it only get worse. Her parents won't change their minds about you, there will be More 'Meddling' and minding the store and even if you would walk down the aisle someday, it's More of the meeting of the minds and a Family Affair, especially if there is a bun in the oven.
It's your choice, your call. In 4 months time, you have gotten your life together and kept it 'Together' like glue. Why fix what doesn't have to be broken, only to go back to the same old redrick and Drama Queen routine? She loves Only Them unconditionally and anyone who crosses her path And Theirs, it will only end up down a beaten path of War of the Roses. You will be put on a back burner, while they stay on top, in front, a Top priority and anyone else is just put on her pay no mind list, no mater What Quack tries to 'Disagree with me.'
Good luck. xx0
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