Does anyone really like to argue?
Growing up I was surrounded by constant violence and men abusing women.
Last night in a conversation with my boyfriend I told him that he will never have a valid reason to raise his voice at me.
He kind of laughed and said that it is life and not everyone is going to follow those directions.
I get it. Not everyone is respectful in that aspect.
HOWEVER, him being the man that I am dating and the level of care we hold for each other, I don't believe that he or I should have a reason to ever raise our voices at one another.
I am not one to argue. I will tell you how I feel and listen to your own feelings till we come to an understanding and respect of each others position in any particular disagreement.
When he raises his voice at me, especially over something so innocent like I touch a part of his body that hurts him without realizing it. (this happened)
I shut down and get quite.
How do you feel about arguing?
- Arguing is bound to happen. Toughen up.25% (2)27% (3)26% (5)Vote
- Arguing will happen occasionally. That is life.12% (1)18% (2)16% (3)Vote
- No one LIKES to argue. Sometimes it just happens.50% (4)27% (3)37% (7)Vote
- I hate arguing and agree. Communication skills help prevent.13% (1)28% (3)21% (4)Vote
- I don't know my opinion. I want to see results.0% (0)0% (0)0% (0)Vote
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This is a subject I have strong opinion about. Everyone in a relationship has the right to feel safe, secure and calm. Issues can be discussed but should not result in heated argument.
People will tell you that argument is normal, this is because that is their past experience, what they see as normal, but is not correct.
In a balanced relationship issues should be discussed and considered without the need to raise voices or argue. That is the point where control has been lost and people feel at risk. This is unacceptable.
I have experience of over 30 years with discussion and agreement on all subjects but not argument and raised two daughters in a calm stress free environment.
There are times when arguments occur (and have occurred), nothing is perfect, but everyone should not feel at risk from their partner and should be allowed a low stress relationship.1