I'm over 30, and I'm one of those very rare people who still hasn't had sex and still doesn't want to until marriage.
Not too long ago, I finally met a girl who comes very close to my image of perfection. She's smart, she's beautiful, she's classy, and we share a lot in common.
The issue is that since I've waited so long without having sex, I wanted to make it more special by being with someone who has also waited and never had sex before.
I always pictured that when I fell in love with a girl and married her, that we'd both be virgins on our wedding night.
And the thing that really breaks my heart is that she wanted the exact same thing as me!
But as she got older, she lost hope, because she didn't think there would be any guys like me out there. So she decided to have sex with a guy who turned out to be a total player, and was just using her for sex. She thought that by having sex with him, she could get him to want to be with her, but instead she got really hurt when he dumped her.
I feel like a real jerk for reminding her of this, because it causes her a lot of pain. But I can't deny that I don't feel good about it. And she knows I don't feel good about it, and it makes her feel very insecure. She wishes she never told me she had sex before, although I think it would be worse if she lied and told me she was still a virgin.
What do I do!
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I totally understand what you mean. The problem is that in todays society sex and intimacy have become too common like a trend and people don't value them as much. My situation is kind of similar, although my bf is a virgin he's kissed other girls before and it makes me sooooooo upset and insecure (although I know this is nothing compared to your situation). It's like we feel our partner should only have experienced all that intimacy with us and no one else. I guess if you really want to be with her and think she is perfect in all other areas then you're gonna have to let it go otherwise it will ruin your relationship and you'll probably push her away if you keep being upset over it and bringing it up. She probably sees all that from her past as meaningless, it holds no importance to her and she hates that guy now. If she loves you and wants to be with you then give her a chance, it will be very rare for you to find another virgin girl at this age and even if you do what are the chances that she will be as compatible? She could be a virgin but have the worst personality. So think about it wisely, weigh the pros and cons and don't let your emotions get the better of you (I'm trying to do the same) Good luck!2