so I met my perfect match on OKC. we're talking & it's going great. but it gets time where I need to ask her out and instead of asking her out I got nervous and gave her my # and asked her to text or call me. she didn't & didn't reply either.
I realize I screwed up because as a guy I need to take initiative. what can I do to fix this & ask her out?
Here's what i wrote: " that's really awesome it's so satisfying and brings so much joy when you help someone in need & even when you're probably having a bad day, you help someone and your day feels like you're floating on a cloud. Tell you what, as long as we're talking, let's do it on the phone so we can hear eachother’s voice and make sure neither of us is a complete weirdo before we continue this Conversation ;) my #s xxx-xxx-xxxx. Call me or text me your # and let's chat."
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You're overthinking this stuff. I personally limit my messaging to like 5 short messages and ask her for her number from there.
Believe it or not, most girls are actually just using the site for attention. These sites are just another attention craving social media outlet for them to put up their "pretty" photos and receiving compliments. Girls have admitted that even on this site. So if she doesn't text or call you, she was actually just using you for attention all along.
Do not get caught up in too much messaging unless you get her number. You just get strung along and she'll stop replying. If she's "too nervous" and says garbage like about kidnappings or whatever got posted in the news she's basically indirectly accusing you of being a kidnapper whether or not she realizes it and she shouldn't even have a profile.
I've met girls in person off these sites years back, very few of them even match their photos and they have literally dozens of guys contacting them regularly if they put up the right photo (s). Do not give them any priority in your life if they do not meet you in person. Hell, be lucky if you can even meet one who isn't fat, on drugs, a heavy drinker, of a single mother with a shitload of ex-boyfriend drama. Because especially on the free sites, that is truly what a majority of the girls are.0