I have been going out with this guy for a while now. Our relationship is a bit complicated, I live about three hours away from him and he has a bit of commitment issues, but until now we actually did a lot of stuff any normal couple would do and we got along great. But now it seems like he is pulling away from me. I know he has a lot of stress since the new semester started ( or so he says), but usually he always finds the time to text me at least once a day. But three days ago, that stopped. The last thing I asked him, was whether he would want to visit me some time, because I was sick and in the same town as him, and I would have liked one or two hours of distraction. He said, he was really busy and he would have to see, whether that was possible. I have to admit that I felt a bit hurt about that, but I still texted back that it was fine and that we would probably see each other again soon. Until then I have not heard from him anymore. I don't really see me doing anything wrong, so I don't get the sudden silence. He is online from time to time, but he does not text me. I don't want to text him either, because I don't want to be annoying or anything, although he always says, I don't annoy him. But if he would care to text me, he would just do it, right? What do you think? Thanks.
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Right now, I'm in a complicated long distance relationship. Sometimes, I really want to just not talk for a day or two. It's sure as hell not because I don't love my girl. But just because when things get complicated, they get stressful and no one wants to deal with stress.
Don't get me wrong, we talk our problems out a lot but there are times where it just seems to be hurdle after hurdle and you just need time to step back and come back in and hope things are neutral again. From having a few myself and seeing lots of old people who are married for years, I'm beginning to realize that a relationship is all about giving a piece of yourself to your partner and hoping they return a piece of them self; just as big, to you. You have to be prepared to realize things can never be even and you can't keep a long term tally.
I'm sorry, I tried to answer your question and I think I started to vent to myself.
My advice to you is to ask him whats up. Part of your problem seems to be that you don't really know much about whats going on in his world. Think of all the little things that affect you that he might not be aware of, you need to talk to him and learn those things for yourself.0